About Me
I'm qualified!
Divorce is one of the most stressful experiences a person will face in a lifetime. A high-conflict divorce can be emotionally, psychologically, and financially crippling. There are very few resources available to help those who find themselves facing a high conflict individual within the family court system.
The High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program (HCDCCP) is the first and only certification program in the world to provide training for those who want to work as high-conflict divorce coach. As a graduate of the program I am prepared and poised to assist those who find themselves targeted by a high conflict individual or toxic individual in family court proceedings.
What Does The Research Say?
Santa Clara University study “Confronting the Challenge of the High-Conflict Personality in Family Court” (Family Law Quarterly) showcases the challenges of divorcing a high-conflict individual.
“Instead of the typical motivation toward settlement, these cases feature a party who is drawn toward, rather than away from, conflict. Whether animated by a genuine belief in their cause, anger over the loss of a relationship, a desire to harass their now-opponent, an affinity for the pageantry of court, or some combination of these factors and others, the litigious client presses the family law court into service.
"What distinguishes cases involving high-conflict personalities from these more typical disputes is that the individual with a high-conflict personality is not simply struggling to process a life transition. Instead, this individual is fueled by the conflict; indeed, they obtain emotional or psychological gratification from it. One of the hallmarks of these cases is that the conflict is so protracted that is becomes normalized. Rather than progressing towards resolution, as time passes in these cases, the idea of settlement grows increasingly remote."
Sound familiar?
I have my certification in Trauma Sensitive Yoga and have taken several meditation classes to help take you out of that freeze or flight moment in a couple of seconds. Practicing breathing and what you can control will be part of your lifesaving skills as you navigate these challenging waters.
Trained by the best.
Plain and simple. I have been trained through the only certification program in the world that is focused on High Conflict Divorces. There are specialized skills not needed in your average divorce. I've been trained to help clients through various stages of divorcing a high-conflict individual including setting goals, formulating a strategy, co-parenting with a toxic individual, family court 101 realities, documentation, understanding who are you dealing with. I myself have been through a trial.
I can help you keep calm in the eyes of the storm and all the chaos this individual brings.
"It's all to do with the training; you can do a lot if you are properly trained."
- Queen Elizabeth
Tina Swithin
Survivor of a "Category Five Divorce Hurricane"
While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that divorcing a narcissist takes the term, “high-conflict” to a level that few can comprehend.
Tina has become an advocate for change in the Family Court System after experiencing the flaws first-hand. Tina is working to raise awareness on narcissistic abuse and post-separation abuse through her judicial education program at One Mom’s Battle.
Dr. Ramani
Narcissim
The focus of Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and related high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations.
David Armstrong
Private investigation & Crisis Management
David has worked in the specialist security and threat management industry as an executive protection officer, crisis management consultant and private investigator for over twenty years. He has specialized in helping clients dealing with high conflict individuals in divorce/child custody, domestic abuse, stalking, harassment, witness protection, kidnap and ransom and child abduction recovery cases.
For more about his services click here.
Poppy and Geoff Spencer
Top Mediators
FL Supreme Court Certified Family Law Mediators, certified counselors, nationally syndicated writers, relationship and parenting experts and are dually certified as Myers Briggs Practitioners (personality), Poppy and Geoff are a highly-credentialed wife-husband team, who have developed a program to help women who are in—or recovering from—a toxic relationship.
Dr. Catherine Barrett
Forensic Psychologist
Dr. Barrett is a licensed Clinical Forensic Psychologist who has been practicing as a psychotherapist for 12 years and a forensic psychologist for 6 years.
Nancy Forrester, MBA, B.Ed., B.Sc.
Trauma on the body
Dr. Forrester is a clinical psychotherapist, coach trainer, international speaker, corporate consultant and Canada's only Accredited Master Trainer and Trainer of Trainers in Emotional Freedom Techniques. She focuses on the path of deep study of trauma; how it impacts the both, mind and spirit and how unresolved trauma shows up in the here and now.
I'm Experienced
I'm raising amazing kids. I have dealt with Physical Therapy, IEP and 504 Plans in the school system and medical arena. I have been a PTO volunteer, coached basketball, and thrown countless classroom parties. I was a stay at home mom for 18 years.
My kids are my inspiration and give me hope. Watching the kindness, the way they care for each other, and they way they advocate for themselves is what I am most proud of.
After 20 years of marriage, I found myself in a situation I would've never imaged - a high conflict divorce. I had to learn from the ground up. There was no one in my circle that understood what I was going through. It was exhausting, lonely, sad, hard, disappointing and scary. Between my trauma and the divorce proceedings, I felt like it was too much to bear alone. I don't ever want anyone to feel like I did.
Coaching other women and hearing their relief of me being someone who gets what they are going through and understands in a few words what others who haven't been through don't.
The tears turn to hope and strength and a focus when everything else seems chaotic.
You are not alone.
I am grateful for the
opportunity to work with you.
I found my peace and comfort in knowing I was not alone. Naming, learning, coaching others and hearing others' stories helped me to understand what I endured.
Learning through my certification program from experts has helped me to understand the legal process and the trauma that goes along with it. Meeting with fellow coaches allows me to have a network to stay on top of the latest in Family Court and on court systems throughout the world .
By internalizing and applying my knowledge and awareness, I am able to help others. Each of our experiences is unique, but there is a common thread in what we all endured and are enduring.
Having someone understand what you have been through and to turn that into help and hope is priceless.
I am resilient.
I never thought my life would take this path. But, now I bind my passion into hearing others tell their stories and helping them.
If someone would've come into my life and offered wisdom, guidance, understanding, direction, resources, strategy and help when I was at my lowest, I would've been forever grateful.
Recognizing I can do that for someone inspires me to help them be the best versions of themselves during one of the most difficult times of their lives.
I want to fend off the fury of lie bombs, senselessness, and unreasonableness. I will bring you to resiliency, reason, protection, and trust. Leave behind the self doubt that has been pulling you under water for far too long.
You are not alone.
