Calm the Chaos
Navigating the rocky waves of divorce can be beyond challenging but there are especially bigger waves when you are dealing with a high conflict individual.
Does this sound familiar?
"You'll never find anyone better than me."
"You're crazy."
"No one will ever believe you."
"You won't have any money if you leave me."
"I'll take the kids if you leave me and you won't see them."
"You'll be sorry."
My Services
Melanie
Certified High Conflict Divorce and Separation Consultant
After 20 years of marriage, I found myself in a situation I would have never imagined - a high conflict divorce. I had to learn from the ground up. There was no one in my circle that understood what I was going through. It was exhausting, lonely, sad, hard, disappointing and scary. Between my trauma and the divorce proceedings, I felt like it was too much to bear alone. I don't ever want anyone to feel like I did.
You are not alone.
Why Me?
Qualified
I am part of a team of high conflict divorce coaches who are from all around the world. We meet regularly and share the latest resources on what is happening in Family Court.
There are only a handful of coaches who are certified as High Conflict Divorce Coaches and this is the only program in the world that trains for dealing with these types of high conflict personalities.
Experienced
After navigating my own high conflict divorce, I'm equipped with first hand knowledge to walk you through yours.
I have been coaching for years and have gained knowledge from my network of clients and professionals I have worked with over the years.
My own battle was almost 4 years just in the court system.
Have you been wishing for someone who just "got" what you're going through? I do.
And I offer tips and suggestions from that place of knowing and experience of helping others navigate their cases.
Cost-Effective
My services can save you thousands of dollars in legal fees.
I can help you keep a level head and focus your energy where it matters. This reduces time and costs.
You don't know what you don't know. Avoid those costly legal fees, pay less per hour, and keep track of what's really important with my help.
Informed
I have done extensive research and continue to further my education on the family court system.
With my team, I keep updated and current on the latest information about the family court system – which benefits you.
“Instead of focusing on that circumstances that you cannot change – focus strongly and powerfully on the circumstances that you can.”
Joy Page
“Energy is the essence of life. Every day you decide how you’re going to use it by knowing what you want and what it takes to reach that goal, and by maintaining focus.”
Oprah Winfrey
"You can't calm the storm so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself and the storm will pass. "
Timber Hawkeye
My Process
When you have a clear focus backed by a strategic plan you can start to feel more confident. Regain the power that had been taken from you. The exact process we follow will differ for each individual, as I pinpoint exactly what you need. Together, we will start from wherever you are in your journey and craft a plan to get you where you want to be. Knowing where to focus your energy is key. Once you can do that, you start to feel like the waves aren't crashing down on you. You can start to breathe and keep your head above water.
You have something to hold onto. Land is in sight!
Step 1
Tell me your story
We will start with the basics: a questionnaire. Then we'll move into a personal inventory, getting organized, setting goals and creating a strategy statement.
This helps me get oriented on where you are in the process and assess your needs.
Step 2
Narrow in on your goals and do a deeper dive
Let's examine where you are at with your team and evaluate if they can help you reach your goals. If you don't have a team, we'll figure out how to build one.
Next, we'll gain a deeper understanding of what a high conflict person looks like and what you are up against in reaching your goals.
Step 3
Let's get perspective
You don't know what you don't know.
So, I'll give you a thorough breakdown of the realities of the Family Court system, and explain the players: Custody Evaluators, Mediators, Pysch Evaluators, Parenting Consultants, Financial professionals, GAL's, and others.
Step 4
Co-parenting with someone who is high conflict
• Assistance with communication.
• Managing your emotions and reactions.
• Taking care of yourself when dealing with someone who is high conflict.
Putting the kids first and how to manage things the kids need or question.
Step 5
Navigation
• How to present yourself and work on your strategy.
• How to develop and maintain your focus.
• Discussion around local support systems and resources.
Step 6
Documentation
• How to maintain your sanity with everything that gets thrown at you.
• Knowing what is important to focus on and what to let go of.
• How to keep it all organized.
Step 7
Preparation
Preparation assistance for mediation, psych and custody evaluators, trial, meeting with lawyers, parenting consultants, etc...
Step 8
Healing and starting over
• What's next for you?
• What does life after divorce look like?
• Typical stages include healing, finding yourself, moving on and dating.
